Dharma is a Sanskrit concept meaning: each individual’s unique, ideal purpose in life, and the knowledge of how and where to find it.
Dharma in simpler terms means to be you fully, to live in respect and to follow your own path while acknowledging the same in others. Knowing your dharma leads to knowing the answers to life’s big questions: Who am I? Why am I here? What am I supposed to do with my life? How do I fulfill and live my purpose? If you happen to know this, you are far ahead of the game. I do not know completely, but I do have a full understanding of what it means to allow dharma its full birth, in others and myself.
It is, as a coach, imperative to not judge someone else’s seeking or knowledge of self. My own fault is in how often I judge myself. How often do you judge yourself? I find it much easier to allow someone else their space to discover who and what they are. I have had to learn how to do this for myself. My job as a coach is to bring one closer to their dharmic self.
I found myself contemplating dharma with news from my hometown where a staggering number of teens have committed suicide recently. The people who have talked to me about it have really gotten lost in the ‘why’ of it. Suicide is an individual choice. Survival is a choice. Living is a choice. I know this might be hard to take for some of you, but it might just be that person’s dharmic purpose was to commit suicide.
- They came here to do that one act.
- They came here to be the sign for those around them to wake up, shift their purpose, or to make the changes in their life that puts them on the right path.
- Their soul was the only soul that knew exactly why they were to come here and leave here in such a manner.
Is it truly, on a soul level, any different from dying at 14 years old of cancer, or at 21 years old in an unexplainable car wreck?
If everything happens for a reason, who are we to question who, what, when, where or why of it? As for the ‘why’ it leads to nowhere it is an endless loop that truly may not be any of our business and letting go of the ‘why’ brings us closer to our dharma.
The point I want to recognize in talking about dharma is this: when we feel uneasy, we do not understand a situation, or we are left questioning the bigger picture, it is our dharmic right to ask these questions of our selves, but we are instantly off target to ask these questions for someone else’s life.
Dharma I believe is interlaced with love, if you truly love a person then you set them free to be exactly who they came here to be. You allow them to live their dharma just as you wish to live your own…in total abandon and freedom from explanation. There is no better place to practice this concept than in everyday life with everyone, even if you do not love everyone. Bless them and say a little prayer for their journey to fulfill their dharma.